I think most people would say the opposite of Love must be Hate. I disagree! In my opinion it is Fear. I believe hate is just a byproduct of fear. We hate things we don’t understand because we fear the negative sensations they could potentially cause us to experience. We fear things that threaten our safety and sense of well-being. Sigmund Freud defined hate as “an ego state that wishes to destroy the source of its unhappiness.” I believe that if you take a closer look at anything you profess to hate you can identify such a fear. For example, I hate sharks because I fear they will eat me, I hate raw tomatoes because I fear they will taste bad, and I hate football because I don’t understand it, and I’m afraid if I watch it I’ll die of boredom (or perhaps I’m afraid I will like it!).
Let’s say there is a person you “hate”. Can you identify the fear that drives that reaction? Perhaps you’re afraid that person will say something to embarrass you, steal your boyfriend, or perform better than you.
The strangest thing about fear is that it is not real! It is always coming, never here; it’s perpetually in the future. Fear is always imagined. You don’t “fear a bear ate you.” You “fear a bear will eat you.” Once the dreaded event happens it’s no longer feared, except in the sense that it might happen again. Fear is a liar and a mirage. It’s a suggestion and a delusion. My favorite Samuel Clemens quote is “I have suffered many tragedies in my life, most of them never happened.”
I believe fear/hate is the most destructive force in the universe. Love creates. Hate destroys. For that reason I have spent the last year trying to eliminate all fear from my life. I have simply refused to acknowledge any fear. It hasn’t happened overnight. It has taken discipline and practice, but it has been very liberating! Letting go of fear has been the greatest thing I ever did for myself.
Franklin D Roosevelt said it best, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
The Bible tells us 365 times to not be afraid, once for everyday of the year.
“Fear is only as deep as the mind allows,” a Japanese proverb.
Napoleon said, “He who fears being conquered is sure of defeat.”
“No one loves the man whom he fears,” Aristotle.
And I agree with Marilyn Manson, “One hates what one fears.”
Governments, many religions, and all terrorists use fear to control those they oppress, often with great success. The only way to win is to refuse to be afraid! Fill your life with love and live without fear of anything or anyone! Find the opposite of hate… freedom!
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Monday, November 22, 2010
Roku Rocks!!!
Roku and netflix are just about the best thing to happen to TV ever!
If you already have a netflix account you should really consider getting a Roku device. They are very affordable and so simple to use! They have recently added the Hulu Plus Channel. It's a subscription channel like Netflix except it does have commercials which I don't like. You can watch Hulu for free online with commercials. I would consider getting the Hulu subscription on Roku if it were commercial free. I think it should be one or the other, subscription or commercial free. Netflix is now also offering a cheaper membership with no DVDs just the "watch instantly" content on computer or Roku device. I think these types of programs and devices including DVRs are really changing the way we watch televison. I LIKE IT!!
If you already have a netflix account you should really consider getting a Roku device. They are very affordable and so simple to use! They have recently added the Hulu Plus Channel. It's a subscription channel like Netflix except it does have commercials which I don't like. You can watch Hulu for free online with commercials. I would consider getting the Hulu subscription on Roku if it were commercial free. I think it should be one or the other, subscription or commercial free. Netflix is now also offering a cheaper membership with no DVDs just the "watch instantly" content on computer or Roku device. I think these types of programs and devices including DVRs are really changing the way we watch televison. I LIKE IT!!
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Can You Really Afford to Sell Your Home?
Today the biggest obstacle I am facing as a realtor is home owners who can't afford to sell their home. Or sellers who just don't want to face the reality that their home is not worth want they think. Listing an overpriced home hurts everyone and is just a waste of everybody's time. Working with sellers I am not willing to take an overpriced listing. Working with buyers it's getting very difficult to find a seller willing negotiate a reasonable price and often when we reach a "meeting of minds" the house still doesn't appraise high enough. It's a difficult situation. I don't think buyers should be the ones to overpay with larger downpayments. That just causes the cycle to continue because now they can't afford to sell or refinance. IMO sellers need to face reality. If you can't afford to sell your house don't put it on the market. If you have to sell then be prepared to bring money to closing. Owners that are not upsidedown also need to realize that they may need to be happy with a smaller check at closing, count themselves lucky and remember that if they are now going to buy they will benefit on the other end of the transaction (especially if they are upsizing).... if they can find a reasonable seller that is.
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